Yikes! Don’t Talk to me about money!
My mother was talker. I was always amazed at how she could start up a conversation literally anywhere. The line at the grocery store, the DMV, anywhere.
Recently, I have noticed that part of my own personal mojo is my ability to talk with anyone, anywhere about their money. The funny thing about that is that most of these conversations are not initiated by me. While I feel so blessed that I apparently provide such a safe space for other women to talk about their money, it can also be difficult to hear.
I had one of those hard to hear conversations last week when I was at the doctor‘s office. One of the nurses and I were chatting when she asked me what I do for a living.
I answered quickly “financial coach and consultant”. I honestly didn’t know if she was filling in something on her form or trying to distract me from the fact that I was hopping on the dreaded scale.
Immediately, she had an almost visceral response. Right way she gave me an awkward chuckle and told me that she had no freaking clue about her money… like at all. She went on to tell me that her husband took care of any and all money. She didn’t even know how many accounts they have, much less what’s in them.
I very delicately recommended that she might want to have her husband write down all of the websites, usernames and passwords, just in case she needs to access it. She replied with an awkward laugh and changed the subject.
While I understand that it’s a delicate subject because money brings up so much trauma, emotion, anxiety, fear and just junk in general for people, you will not gain anything by ignoring it.
Let’s get really real for a second.
You owe it to yourself to set yourself up for success.
If life has taught me anything, it’s that things happen. Sometime they’re good things and other times they’re not so good things. Either way, preparation makes things easier.
If you think that it’s easier to be in denial, you might be in denial.
When we put off hard things, what we’re actually doing is making things harder for ourselves in the future. Instead of setting ourselves up for success, we’re focusing on the here and now, and ignoring your wealthy future life.
Yes, we have the ability to do hard things, but we need to actually do them.
Sometimes getting your ducks in a row seems near impossible. Sometimes it seems like the damn ducks are all over the place. It’s ok. Round them up one at a time and take lots of breaks, if you need to. Just don’t give up!
This week when you’re tackling the hard stuff, I want you to know that I’m in your corner. I know that you can do it. And you know what? Even if you’re working at a snails pace, keep at it.
If you’re having a hard time knowing where to start with your money, reply to this message and tell me what’s your biggest concern. Let’s get that brain space freed up for other things, like the things that you absolutely love to do in life.
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